Raising Godly Children in an Ungodly World

Below are excerpts I’ve taken from Ken & Steve Ham’s book by the above title.  I know this post is super long, but there was nothing I was willing to take out to make this post shorter.  It’s rich, deep, awesome stuff!!  I hope you will make time to read it all as it has been super helpful, convicting, and inspiring to me.  Most all the quotes stand alone and were taken from random spots throughout the book, so please forgive the fact that it doesn’t all flow together.  This is such strong stuff, whew, it’s impacted me greatly.  And please, don’t be offended, just “eat the meat and spit out the bones.”  🙂

Ken & Steve talked a lot about the incredible legacy that their father left to them and how that has affected future generations greatly.  Ken founded Answers in Genesis and has equipped millions with answers to Bible questions and helped strengthen people’s faith in God.  Obviously he gives God the glory, but he also realizes the enormous part his father played in raising Him to stand strong on the Word of God.  I’m inspired to leave a Godly legacy to my children!

These are all quotes from the book:

Evolution is so dangerous, it does matter what we believe…  “The implications of Darwin’s legacy are far-reaching. He paved the way for moral relativism, and fueled racism (claiming that blacks, aborigines, and others are inferior, less-evolved races.) His ideas have also fueled the abortion industry, leading to the conclusion that an unborn child is nothing more than a lump of cells (or just an animal) and that a woman has the right to kill it if she so chooses. The ideas of Darwin even paved the way for Hitler, who used them to justify the extermination of those he considered less than ideal — resulting in the mass murder of millions of Jews, gypsies, and others. His ideas have contributed to the erosion of the family, educational institutions, the decay of the legal system, and have led to great compromise in the Church.”

Take action and take risk. Dad was a risk taker and a man of action.  He and Mum never really wondered how to get something done, they just did it. Whether it was bringing missionaries into town for a campaign, starting a Sunday school, or giving more than they reasonably should, they rarely counted the costs. If they felt the burden that something should happen, they made it happen. They were like Nehemiah, who, when he saw the walls of Jerusalem and the temple of God in ruins, was burdened to do something about it. When he saw the leaders treating the people unjustly, he asked the question “Why isn’t someone doing something?”  He acted and took it upon himself to rebuild the holy city and ensure justice for the people. Daniel 11:32 says:

The people who know their God will display strength and take action.

With Bible in hand Dad would challenge the pastor about some of the things he said in his sermon, quoting Scriptures that resounded with the words “Thus said the Lord,” or “It is written. . . .” Dad just loved the passages that proclaimed “Thus says the Lord,” “It is written,” and “Have you not read . . . ?!”

Your ancestral heritage does not affect your intrinsic value as a person. Each human is made in the image of God and marred by the curse of sin. Inter-racial marriage does not exist, unless you are referring to marrying a human with a non-human. Skin color is no measure of humanity, any more than eye color or hair.
Galatians 3:28-29
28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.
29 And if ye [be] Christ’s, then are ye Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.

Your family desperately needs you to stand up and lead, because the world is drawing them in all the wrong directions. Statistics indicate that around 90 percent of the children from church homes attend public schools in America. Sadly, statistics indicate that seven out of ten of such students will walk away from the church after their senior high years. Barna Research found that only nine percent of teens who call themselves “born-again Christians” believe in absolute moral truth.  Family breakups, even among those calling themselves Christian, are startlingly common.

God aggressively quizzes Job through chapters 38 to 42, asking him questions about various animals and other aspects of the earth and universe that Job cannot possibly answer. “Job, were you there when I made the earth? Do you know this? What about this, Job? Do you understand that? How much do you know about this?” At the end of God’s inquisition, Job falls down in dust and ashes, basically saying, “I give up Lord  — compared to You I know nothing.”

I found out later that there is a big difference between “observational science” which we all agree with, and “historical science” which involves the scientist’s beliefs about the past.

“Christian psychology” as the term is used today is an oxymoron.  The word “psychology” no longer speaks of studying the soul; instead it describes a diverse menagerie of therapies and theories that are fundamentally humanistic. The presuppositions and most of the doctrine of psychology cannot be successfully integrated with Christian truth.
While other resources (such as parenting courses or psychological techniques) can be helpful, they can also be harmful and distract us from the pure Word of God.

If we had no other resource, God’s Word would be more than enough.

That’s what it means to have the Bible as your axiom; you strive to see the Bible as the central starting point for all belief in all matters of life.

We must remember that compromise on one point — even one that might not seem overly significant — can lead to compromise on many others. For example, the secular world view claims that man cannot live for 900 years, but the biblical account in Genesis emphatically states as a matter of history that Methuselah’s age was of that order. The secular world view claims that a human virgin cannot give birth to a baby, but the biblical account states clearly that Mary, as a virgin, gave birth to Jesus. The secular world view claims that no man can rise from the dead, but the words of Scripture record as a matter of history that Jesus did rise from the dead— and even point out that if that was not the case, our faith is in vain!  God’s Word is not an exhaustive text book of astronomy, biology, geology, etc., but it does give us a record of the origin of all the basic entities of life and the universe — it’s “the big picture” of history. We have been given the major events of history in every area to enable us to have the key information to build the right way of thinking about everything.  God’s Word enables us to have the right foundational information to build the correct way of thinking to understand this present world. It enables us to develop what I call the “big picture” understanding of reality.

However, we should all be at least aware that one of the primary purposes for marriage has not changed — to produce offspring. We certainly need to make sure we don’t have a self-centered attitude when considering such matters.

It is significant that Scripture is even more specific than telling us to just have offspring; we are commanded to have godly offspring. In Malachi 2:15, the prophet was condemning the Israelite men for taking pagan wives:
This passage answers the “why marriage” question directly. Why does God make two people one flesh? What is this all about? From your union He seeks “a godly seed.” One of the primary reasons for marriage is to produce godly children; it is not just “seed” you are to produce, but “godly seed.” Certainly there are other purposes for this union of man and woman, but a primary purpose for this union called marriage, which is binding and established by God in Genesis, is to have godly seed.

If we don’t produce godly offspring, how will the future generations of the world hear the truth about living a righteous life? Romans 10:14 puts it to us this way:
How then shall they call on him in whom they have not believed?  and how shall they believe in him of whom they have not heard?  and how shall they hear without a preacher? (KJV).

The time not spent by a father training just one child can lead to hundreds, or thousands, or millions not having the knowledge of God. (Remember the descendants of Canaan?!)

The most important thing for anyone is that they know Christ. Nothing else ultimately matters in the big picture of things. Our lives on this earth are so short — in fact they add up to nothing compared to eternity.  The car, the house, the career . . . all will vanish with time, but the soul of your child will live forever. Doesn’t that make you want to take a serious look at how you are bringing up your children?

As a Christian parent, you would do well to look forward and think about your grandchildren or great-grandchildren, maybe even your greatgreat grandchildren. Think about this: Do you see godly offspring, or do you see generations who have not been given a godly inheritance? Within the sovereignty of God, much will depend on you.  You may need to sustain a godly heritage left by your ancestors, or you may need to start from scratch and re-create a legacy that has been lost. Either or, this is the great challenge before us:  We are to raise godly seed by accepting our responsibilities as parents; to see our children conformed to the image of Christ, diligently training them in truth, using the rod with love, remembering God’s warnings and blessings promised – so that our children will not learn the ways of the heathen, but will be able to distinguish good from evil, and so influence the world for Christ.

It doesn’t matter if you are the dirtiest heathen from a completely lost lineage, or if you come from a squeaky-clean church family.  Each individual has to make their own personal decision to follow Christ.

Most of all, we need to realize that we are being watched. We are the most important role models and examples our children will have on this earth. Every word and every action is being processed by those who are looking to us for guidance.

This peace from God is in great contrast to the world’s understanding of peace. The world is willing to seek peace with other men through a warped sense of tolerance; and then they demand that we simply accept the lifestyles and views of others. That is not something we can do. For example, if we, as Christians, tolerate the teaching of Islam, we tolerate a teaching that is at war with God. When we tolerate the homosexual lifestyle, we tolerate a lifestyle that is absolutely contrary to the design of God. When we tolerate Darwinian evolution, we tolerate a philosophy that denies God. We are commanded to attempt to be at peace with all men (Rom. 14:19; Ps. 34:14), loving them in the name of Christ, but we are never commanded to tolerate the lies that are raised up against the things of God — in fact, we are called to go to war against these lies and to destroy them (2 Cor. 10:3–6).

The family is the primary unit God uses to transmit His knowledge from one generation to the next and to the world around us.

Fathers:
The father to the children shall make known thy truth (Isa. 38:19; KJV).
Fathers . . . bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Eph. 6:4; KJV).
For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him (Gen. 18:19; KJV).
Give ear, O my people, to my law: incline your ears to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth in a parable: I will utter dark sayings of old: which we have heard and known, and our fathers have told us. We will not hide them from their children, showing to the generation to come the praises of the Lord and his strength and his wonderful works that he hath done. For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children: That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children: That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments  (Ps. 78:1–7; KJV, emphasis added).

Psalm 78 is a long one, but I encourage you to read it through, and even write it down and keep it as a bookmark.  The psalm is saying over and over — fathers, teach your children so they’ll not forget to teach their children, so that they might not forget what God has done and keep His commandments.

Sadly, in other parts of Psalm 78, we read that the Israelites did forget the works of God. They ended up adopting the pagan religions of the day and fell into sin because the fathers did not teach the children. One of mankind’s biggest problems is forgetting what God has said or done. In the New Testament, Peter says over and over again, “I want to put you in remembrance of these things.”

If you have read the Old Testament, you are familiar with the accounts of the Israelites and how God did marvelous and miraculous things for them. Sadly, though, they kept forgetting what God had done for them, and then they would complain and end up in trouble. When I read these accounts to my children, they often used to say “Dad, how come they were so stupid?! Why couldn’t they remember how God took them through the Red Sea, or gave them manna from heaven, or warned them with fire from heaven?

Well, they had the same problem we have. In fact, we are no different from the Israelites. We are only too apt to forget. How many times have we heard a great sermon at church and been convicted to apply a particular biblical principle in our lives — only to forget the principle after a few days or weeks.

Because the legacy has been broken, men in general don’t know why they should lead (they are missing that compelling conviction, and thesignificance of their God-given roles), and they don’t know how to lead.  I have had fathers come up to me and tell me that their father did not read to them or teach them or pray with them. They almost feel “sissy” doing this with their children because the strongest males in their lives didn’t model any of it. Their image of masculinity is missing the spiritual component. Many Christian dads have been given no tools, no blueprint, and no materials with which to build their legacy . . . and because many know they should be leading, they are left with heavy guilt and feelings of inadequacy.

Remember Psalm 78? Dads, you are to be diligent to impart the knowledge of God to the next generation, period. You can easily learn to do this.  We will show you how to get started shortly, but you must be committed.  If you are more interested in your business or football or television; if you are giving your best to your career and come home at night too tired to even bother spending time with your children (let alone pray and read the Word with them) then you are making a big mistake. Who is really training your kids? The TV? The kids across the street? The internet? Video games and movies? Dad, don’t stick your head in the sand on this one. You’ve only got one shot at this. Don’t let the opportunity to train your children pass you by . . . the stakes are just too high for everyone.

Bile Reading to Your Children:  You are never going to do it perfectly, so you might as well just jump in and start. Here are some simple things that you can do right now that will help begin making a huge difference in your family:
1. Pray with your wife. This may seem awkward at the start, but again, just do it. Pray before meals. Pray in bed at night. Pray together for each of your kids as they sleep.

2. Pray for your kids. Bedtime is an ideal place to get started. When you get them tucked in, just take them by the hand and let them listen as you thank God for them and ask for His blessings on their lives. (They love that!) Ask them if they have any requests that you can pray for. In time, ask them if they want to pray out loud with you, but let them know that God always hears their silent prayers, too.

3. Study the Bible. Start reading your Bible where your family can see you. (You don’t want to do this for show like the Pharisees; you do it as an authentic model for your family.) Then start reading it to them. A good place to start is Genesis 1–11 — the foundation of the rest of the Bible. Also study the Psalms or Proverbs. If it’s December, start with what we call “the Christmas Message” — the babe in a manger. If it’s spring (in the Northern Hemisphere), read the passages pertaining to Easter — the death and resurrection of our Savior. Start in Revelation. Start anywhere you want — but do it in a planned way — using a particular book of the Bible, or verses pertaining to a particular subject, etc. In time, let them read it to you . . . you’re training them to continue the legacy with their future family, remember? You will have a lifetime to get better at it, but most importantly, just start NOW!

4. Go to a good church and get plugged in. You might have to search for a while to find one that really ministers and teaches according to the Word of God. You might have to leave the church where you’ve been a member for decades, but find one that upholds the content and the authority of the Bible, and just start going there.  (Remember, if you’re looking for the “perfect” church, don’t join it because you’ll spoil it! There is no “perfect church” — but it is so important for the family to be a part of a local church — one that really upholds the truth of Scripture.)

Be a diligent dad. Do it for the sake of your kids and future generations.

It’s your role and it’s the right thing to do.

Reading the Bible with Your Children:  Forget being perfect and just do it! When you fall short or forget, just get up and do it again. In the long run, your efforts will make a huge difference.

Dad and Mum may have had disagreements at times, as all couples no doubt do, but I cannot remember them having any fights in front of us. I remember them as a couple devoted to each other.

That is God’s ideal design for the family, but we do live in a less than perfect world because of sin and the curse. We have families that have mothers and fathers that cannot (or will not) fulfill their God-given roles. We have orphans. We have foster kids. We have widows and widowers. Single parents and those dealing with broken marriages have a very complicated and difficult task before them . . . and I believe God gives a special measure of grace to men and women in these sad situations. Those of us who are aware of such families need to do whatever we can to support them and maybe even be role models for their children. These are the times when the Body is to work as a body, healing, supporting, and compensating for other parts of the body that are in need.

There are many families out there that need us to help them be whole and healthy. It’s much easier to condemn and judge others for the circumstances they are in (often by their own making), but isn’t this an opportunity for us, as members of Christ’s body, to minister to others in His name?

Supporting the strong Christian leadership of a godly father is the strongest adhesive a wife brings in building a biblical legacy.

But your real challenge is to be dependent on Him to fulfill the very things He commands you to do. Understanding this will give you strength when times are tough, and ensure that He gets the glory for all the blessings.

PRINT AND FRAME THIS:
Our God and our Creator,
We come to You now with empty hands, recognizing that all we are, and all we have is a gift from You. You have made all things, and nothing has come into being that You have not made. We praise You for the children You have entrusted to us, and we deeply desire to build a godly legacy that will be a blessed inheritance to them, to their children, and to the generations to follow. It is clear that Your Word, and only Your Word, can be the foundation for this legacy. The empty opinions of man and the fallible wisdom of the world can never be a substitute for Your perfect and living Word. Give us the willingness to search the Scriptures to discover the principles and commands that You have given us to obey. Father, we humbly fear that the knowledge of You can be lost in a single generation. By the truth of Your Word, and by the power of Your Spirit, we ask that You will instill in our hearts a compelling conviction that leads us to prioritize the task of training up a godly generation. Increase our love for You in our personal relationship with You through Jesus Christ, so that we might be an authentic model to our children, and that we might be empowered in our tasks by the very presence of You in our hearts. Give us a clear understanding of the roles and responsibilities You have created us to fulfill. Our sinful tendencies will try to lead us into disobedience to Your will. We know that without You, we can do nothing, but that through Jesus Christ, we can do all things. Lord, we place ourselves humbly in Your hands. Use us as You see fit to be sacrificial, submissive, and loving to each other and to our children; that we might be used to build a godly legacy and leave a rich spiritual inheritance that brings glory, honor, and dominion to You and You only.
Amen

The content of Scripture is real, not just symbolic or illustrative.

One of Ken’s pet hates is the concept of “Bible stories.” Parents and Sunday schools around the world are innocently teaching children what we call “Bible stories,” normally illustrated with unrealistic childlike illustrations.  (Like all the big animals poking their heads out of the little bath boat).

When will we start becoming serious about teaching our children biblical truth, instead of biblical tales? Keep in mind that the world scoffs at the account of Noah’s ark and the worldwide Flood — such fairy tale looking arks actually help them scoff.

The Bible:  Dad always reminded us that the message was from God Himself.

More and more we see forces at work in our society that take our children at younger and younger ages to train them in anti-God philosophies. In effect, this is producing a non-God-fearing, anti-Christian nation.

Just because something is labeled “Christian” doesn’t mean it is safe.

When it comes to public education, which is based in secular humanist philosophies, the Christian parent would be wise to heed the words of the great reformer, Martin Luther:
“I would advise no one to send his child where the Holy Scriptures are not supreme. Every institution that does not unceasingly pursue the study of God’s Word becomes corrupt.”

Some feel that the influences of a pagan education can be offset by being part of a strong church, but this isn’t enough. It is a known fact that with each passing generation, greater percentages of teenagers brought up in the church abandon Christianity. Over 90 percent of students from church homes in the United States attend secular schools.  Barna research reported that 70 percent of these students plan on leaving the church after they finish school.  Those statistics should wake up any parent who desires to raise godly children in this ungodly world.

In public schools, secular humanism dominates, peer pressure is intense, and “compromise” isn’t even an issue — the system is now blatantly anti-God and indoctrinated by Darwinian thinking that by and large won’t even allow the things of God, or even the possibility of a Creator, to be mentioned.

Adults ministering in this system are very different than immature students being trained by the system. Until a student has the maturity to discern right and wrong, the strength to stand up to peer pressure, and the determination to confront compromise, public schools are a very dangerous place to be.

Let’s face it: Children are being contaminated as a result of their secular education, television, the books they read, and their friends. In a world of no absolutes, evolution, sex outside marriage, humanism, and false religions — children will be tossed to and fro.

Because so many children from church homes have been trained by the government education system (which has become more and more anti-Christian over the years — to the point of eliminating Christianity totally), and because most fathers haven’t really trained their children with a biblical foundation as they should, there are now generations of adults who attend church, but are so contaminated by the world that they think like the world. They lack salt, and the salt they have has lost its saltiness by contamination. These people then contaminate those around them and their own children.

I believe that in many instances (not all, of course), what people call “teenage rebellious years” is due to a lack of being trained to acquire a taste for the things of the Lord in the early years.

If you are going to opt for a private Christian education for your kids, don’t assume anything when it comes to the content of the courses or the convictions of the faculty. Don’t assume that the students there are going to be a positive influence on your children. Do your research on the school; monitor everything carefully, and never shirk your responsibility to be the one who trains your kid.

No matter what education you choose, know that you must be pouring the “salt” into your children — and this salt should be as uncontaminated as possible. Children need to be taught to acquire a taste for biblical teaching as early and as repeatedly as possible.  This process is most assured in a home-based education where the parents can take hour-by-hour responsibility for the task.

Some Christian parents justify their choice of public education by saying, “Yeah, but I’ve got good kids.” Many child psychologists teach that children are basically “good” too, but the Bible teaches otherwise.

Let’s face it, when we as adults are given choices, our sinful tendencies draw us in the wrong direction. Would you rather read the Bible or a secular magazine? Are you more inclined to spend time praying or watching television? Would you rather go to a missions program at church or a football game at the stadium? If you have some extra money, would you prefer to buy Christian books or a new piece of furniture or new car?

One night, when our firstborn was in upper elementary school, he came and said, “Dad, someone at the Christian school told a dirty joke today and I can’t get it out of my mind.” Yes, contamination sticks with us — it is hard to get rid of because our flesh and fallen nature attract it. If we’ve allowed a lot of contamination to fill up these “vessels,” it is going to be very hard to “decontaminate” them. That’s why parents need to work so hard to avoid as much contamination as possible, and that’s why dads and moms have to work with much prayer, patience, and perseverance to ensure as much salt as possible stays in the “vessel.” There also needs to be much remedial work that reminds children over and over again of biblical truths that continually instill in them a Christian world view (and the more that happens, the more the culture as a whole will be influenced for good). These things are very difficult to do when the child is spending all day in an anti-God, Bible-denying, secular humanist enforcing environment.

Always remember that it is your responsibility, within your means, to see that your child is trained and educated according to biblical principles.

God is a gracious God and forgives, but the consequences of your actions will still be part of the legacy you leave . . . and you only have one opportunity to leave it, so you better be sure you’re doing it as you should.  If God’s people do not produce godly offspring, then the application of the truth of God’s Word will be severely and negatively impacted for generations to come or to the world around. Who then will be our evangelists, pastors, missionaries, Christian teachers, and Sunday school teachers?

It is impossible to train children under a worldly system and then add God to it. You cannot Christianize a secular philosophy.

Our children are not “good.” They have sinful natures and fleshly tendencies that make them highly vulnerable to temptation and compromise.

The educational choices you make have great impact on the sanctification of your child. Make these choices wisely, according to biblical principles, and even at great personal sacrifice.

Always monitor the content of what your child is being taught, even in a Christian school or in home school curricula.

Never give up your responsibility to be the primary trainer of truth for your children.

In relation to our other interests, how much of our time do we give to focused Bible study?

How does it compare, for example, to TV, sports, friends, and hobbies?

A godly parent is a picture of the fruit of the Spirit. We are to be living in peace with God, and seeking His peace in our homes. We are to be longsuffering and patient in the instruction and discipline of our children. We are to be kind in every action . . . even in discipline. We are to be a picture of God’s goodness to us. We are to be trustworthy and true to our word.  We are to display gentleness with open arms and approachability. We are to be controlled and not given to temper, and certainly not to discipline out of temper or anger.

A life controlled in the Spirit does not discipline out of loss of control, but out of great control mixed with the other attributes listed as the fruit of the Spirit.  Paul is not telling us in any way to be weak in our discipline, but to be reasonable. We are not to be unjust in anger or out of control in temper — because this is where discipline stops and abuse begins.  Consistency and control is the key. We can be consistent and controlled by the Spirit, so that we can love in the same spirit in which we discipline — and discipline in the same spirit in which we teach and nurture.

Children are required to listen and act under the authority of their parents. This submission, however, is not obedience under oppression (which is a restriction of freedom). It is also not a command simply to maintain the chain of authority.

No parent is perfect, but the more Christ-like the parent behaves, the fewer difficulties children will have in obeying. A parent who exasperates their child makes it more difficult for them to be willing to submit. Childhood obedience comes out of a great respect and love for a father and mother

Dad always explained why I was getting disciplined, and I always appreciated that he would always tell us not only what we did wrong but why it was wrong. When we would get caught doing something, and we already knew why it was wrong, he would still tell us again anyway, just to reinforce the reason. We were never confused about discipline; Dad’s explanations made it clear.

From a human perspective, however, there is no guarantee that children will become “godly offspring” even if you are the most consistent Christian parents in the world. Each of us (our children included) has to ultimately answer for their own sin and make their own decisions to obey.  Even though there are exceptions, as a general rule, the parents who don’t train their children with a Christian world view reap the consequences in producing a generation who is not godly. As a general rule, the parents who do their best to train up a godly generation (even if not all are committed Christians) reap the rewards of such training, because the morals and examples of their parents, by and large, stay with them.

Our Dad not only took it upon himself to teach us from the Word, but he also kept a close eye on others who were teaching us as well.

While my father would keep those teaching God’s Word accountable to its authority, we would also see him overflowing with joy when God’s Word was taught in truth with authority. When God’s Word was compromised, however, he never hesitated to take necessary measures to  protect us.

Dad ensured that the spiritual food for his family was full of nutrition, enabling us to also understand the consequences from the junk food of false teaching. Many people today are choosing churches by the style of their music (sometimes mistakenly called “worship”), facilities, sporting programs, or some similar type of criterion.  We should choose a church which takes a strong stand for the Word of God and refuses compromise.

A parent can and must do the things that Scripture commands. We are to be Spirit-filled, humble in submission, controlled in discipline, and faithful in receiving the nourishment of the Word. Beyond that, we must pray like there’s no tomorrow! Because some day, as my father now fully knows, there will be “no tomorrow” — only an eternity that will reflect the way you allowed Christ to build a godly legacy through you.

In what ways has post-modernism infiltrated your family, your church, and your personal beliefs?

If you were to make one change to your approach to raising your children as a result of the principles in this chapter, what would that change be?

Our families do need to be protected. There is definitely a war taking place in society and there are two teams, God’s and Satan’s.

Who is ultimately in charge of building the structure of your family? King David tells us that unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain.

As parents, we confront compromise and uphold truth in order to defend our homes from the world’s lies, but unless God himself actually builds and protects, it will not happen. He is the One who in His sovereignty does it all.

Dad always challenged us to “make the most of our time” (Eph. 5:16),

Are you teaching your children to rest in the Lord on every matter, or take the burdens of life upon themselves? If you are working overtime to pad your retirement account and expand your investment portfolio, are you neglecting the opportunity to mentor your children in the Scripture and thus godliness (which is the best “investment” in the future you could ever make!)? Are you striving to provide material things other families are buying for their children (things that will evaporate in time), or are you striving to build a spiritual legacy that will never end?

Contentment and godly living is infinitely more valuable than any material thing.

Children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward (Ps. 127:3).
I am intimidated by these words actually. Our children are our heritage, our reward. . . . In this passage, God would have us place the importanceof our children on a whole new level: They are part of His heritage to us.We are not just building a legacy for them; they are a direct gift from God to us. He owns them and has temporarily placed them in our stewardship,to build in Him, and protect from the evil world. What a responsibility!What an opportunity!

Our heritage is from God. We have been entrusted with an inheritance that is owned by Him. We are to build an ongoing heritage for our children based on His direction alone.  If God hasn’t given you enough sense of responsibility by acknowledging your ultimate reliance on Him in the building and protecting of your household, if you’re not resting completely on Him for every aspect of contentment and rest, you’re simply not breathing!

Our own home is our first mission field, the place we are to equip them to be able take up this responsibility of one day reaching out to the world themselves.

He is the foreman of what we desire to build, He is the owner of all we have, and we never cease to be His children — not even as we seek to raise the children He has temporarily entrusted to us.

We need to teach them to pray . . . not meaningless prayers of repeated words, but prayers that reflect the living truth of God’s Word and the deepest desires and passions of our hearts.

There is no rest or safety outside of God. Excessive toiling for things that do not provide an eternal benefit is ultimately of no benefit at all.

Our children are given to us from God and for God. If we take this seriously, it is an intimidating and exciting opportunity.

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6 thoughts on “Raising Godly Children in an Ungodly World

  1. Great truths not heard in many quarters again. Thank so much. Please what can you say about the effect of i phones and other gargets on our innocent kids

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